Transforming Grief Blog

Healing Through Intention

By Karen Mehringer
Driving to the emergency room it dawned on me…”Today is the seven-year anniversary of my father’s death.” I thought, “How odd that my sister and I had lunch today and didn’t even acknowledge his anniversary.” Soon after, I glimpsed a sign saying, Lucille Packard Children’s Hospital. I was struck by the coincidence as this is where my brother, Kyle, passed away. Sitting in the emergency room, I was further astonished that I had sat in the same exact room at Stanford Hospital ten years earlier, as Kyle was days away from dying in the adjacent building. Not only that, but a similar complaint brought me there…abdominal pain.

Puzzled, I wondered, “What is this all about?” Two days earlier, my family and I gathered to celebrate Kyle’s ten-year anniversary at an oak tree we planted in his memory. During the ceremony, per the suggestion of a friend, I set my intention to release all of the painful memories stored in my body related to watching Kyle suffer and die. I questioned, “Could my body be reliving the trauma of what I witnessed?” “Maybe the trauma is surfacing now to be released?” And, “What about the reoccurring pain in my abdomen?”

Both […]

Being Still and Silent

By Karen Mehringer

Recently, I found myself feeling anxious and depressed. For several days, I attempted to analyze why I was feeling this way and what I could do to feel better. I questioned, “Would it help to go back to therapy or to get a massage? Maybe I just need to write more.” Feeling uncomfortable, I wanted a quick fix. But, what I found was that the more I resisted how I was feeling, the worse I felt.

At my wits end, I decided to reach out and ask for support by calling a friend. She suggested, “Why don’t you love and honor where you are. Take the day off to be still and silent.” What an idea…to take the day off in the middle of the week to be still and silent! Guilt wanted me to push through, get things done and strive to obtain more business and be more successful.

Hesitantly, I set guilt aside and took my friends advice. After getting off the phone, I meditated for about an hour. Quieting my mind, I was able to hear my body. It was deeply tired and needing rest. I had been on the go and working without much of a break […]

By |April 13th, 2009|Spiritual Awakening|

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Meditation for Inner Peace

By Karen Mehringer
“The mind is the source of all experience, and by changing the direction of the mind, we can change the quality of everything we experience.”
– Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche, The Joy of Living

Have you ever had the thought, “If only I could win the lottery, all of my problems would be solved and I would be so happy?” The results of a study by Philip Brinkman indicated that people who had won the lottery were not much happier than a control group who hadn’t experienced the excitement of suddenly becoming rich. In fact, after the initial thrill wore off, the people who had won the lottery reported finding less enjoyment in the everyday pleasures of life.

Often times, what we think will make us happy, when our focus is on an external source, may prove to be temporarily satisfying, but, in the end, only leaves us feeling dissatisfied and wanting more. What then will bring us lasting joy? – The experience of our true, essential nature. One method for getting us there is through meditation.

Imagine for a moment the sky. Our essence is the blue vastness, a backdrop to the clouds. The clouds come and go. They change shape and […]

By |August 10th, 2008|Spiritual Awakening|

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Emotional Surrender: Opening to Greater Possibilties, Part I

by Karen Mehringer
Sitting in class in 1996 at Seattle Pacific University, my professor had us gather in a circle and share what we considered to be our “role” in life. Surprisingly, what popped out of my mouth was “mommy.” One of the reasons for obtaining a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy was so that I could have a part time private practice and still be a full time mom. I wanted to have my cake and eat it too…to have a fulfilling career in which I could make an income and feel like I was making a difference in other’s lives, while also pursuing my dream of being a mom and raising a family. That was the plan twelve years ago!

Today, as I sit and write this, I am waiting to find out if this “go around” is going to take. Over the last six years, since going off birth control, on many, many  occasions, (at least twenty by now), I have felt my body trying to get pregnant. I frequently feel nauseas and am extremely hungry all the time. (My mother in-law just visited for a week and couldn’t believe how much food I consumed, especially […]