Transforming Grief Blog

Moving beyond fear, taking risks, growing and expanding ourselves

The Gift of Giving

Are you someone who gives on a regular basis? Are you conscious of how and when you give? After reading Cami Walker’s book, 29 Gifts: How a Month of Giving Can Change your Life, I felt inspired to participate in the Giving Challenge…giving away 29 gifts in 29 days. In the book, Cami chronicles her return to health and happiness through her own 29-day giving process. Diagnosed with multiple sclerosis at the age of thirty three, just one month after getting married, her disease progressed rapidly. She frequently visited the emergency room and was barely able to walk. Addicted to medications, she was depressed and stressed out when an African medicine woman recommended she give away 29 gifts in 29 days. Within that month, her life changed dramatically.

Participating in the Giving Challenge, I have become more aware of the benefits of giving for myself and others. So far, as of day 12, I’ve noticed that when I give a heart-felt gift, it transforms me. I feel joyful and alive inside. The more thoughtful the gift, the more transformed I feel and the greater affect it has on the receiver. For example, if I walk the dog or do the […]

By |September 14th, 2010|Personal growth|

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Play Like a Child

In mid-August, there was still snow on the ground. But, fortunately for me, we were experiencing a heat wave, so at 9,000 feet above sea level, even though it was already 5pm, it was still 80 degrees outside.

“Burr! It’s freezing!” I shouted as I slowly stepped into the glacial lake water, the soft mud squishing between my toes. My friends cheered me on from the shore as I held my breath and dunked my head under water.

Exhilarated, I swam calmly across the placid lake, creating small ripples with each breast stroke. Then, my inner child kicked into gear. Pretending to be a dolphin, I swirled and twirled around in circles, keeping my head above water. I also dove up and down, using my legs to propel me forward. Gleefully, I laughed out loud and encouraged my friends to come in. “You’ve got to try this! It’s amazing. But, despite my pleas, they remained dry, on shore. This was my special moment – a ritual I had chosen to help anchor in my intention for experiencing more fun and play in my life.

As adults we rarely allow ourselves to experience the freedom and bliss that comes from playing like kids. […]

By |August 31st, 2010|Personal growth|

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Say YES to Life!

I recently watched the movie, Field of Dreams. It amazes me…it doesn’t seem to matter how many times I watch it, I am always inspired. What’s so inspiring to me is that Kevin Costner’s character hears a voice…”Build it and he will come.” He doesn’t know whose voice it is, who will come, or what he is supposed to build, but he remains open to the voice and eventually has a vision of building a baseball field. Even though it doesn’t make any logical sense, he follows his heart and builds the field.

Despite financial set backs and almost losing his farm, he continues to listen to the voice and follow his heart. In the end, miracle after miracle happens. Not only does he experience financial prosperity and get to keep the farm, but all who are involved realize their dreams.

When my husband, John, quit his job in October, he didn’t know what he wanted to do next for work. He just knew that he wasn’t happy and his heart told him it was time to leave. Since then, he has been following the bread crumbs so to speak…listening to his intuitive nudges. As a result, he has started a […]

By |July 21st, 2010|Personal growth|

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Speaking My Truth

I am a co-author in an anthology being released August 25th titled, Speaking Your Truth: Courageous Stories from Inspiring Women. Here is a blog entry I wrote about what it means to me to speak my truth:

Speaking my truth means that I share honestly and openly what is in my heart…what I think and believe and how I feel. In order to speak my truth, I need to be honest with myself first. Is what I am about to say coming from my heart, from a place of love, from the center of who I am? Or, am I speaking from fear or anger? Are my words an emotional response to pain from my past? When speaking my truth, I always want to center myself in the present moment and in love.

Sometimes it can be scary to speak my truth, as I fear being judged and rejected. But, more often than not, when I risk being know, I feel liberated. Sharing my truth with others heals me and frees them to share the truth of who they are in turn. I love what Marianne Williamson wrote in A Return to Love, “And as we let our own light shine, […]

Allowing Prosperity

The news is grim…the Gulf Coast oil spill, earthquakes, tsunamis, volcanoes, financial loss, etc. No wonder many of us walk around with heavy hearts, feeling sad, and scared about the future. A pervasive fear consciousness permeates our society. But, this isn’t the truth of who we are. We were created from God’s source of never-ending love. It is our birthright to be prosperous, to experience abundance…a feeling of fullness, fulfillment, love and joy. At all times, we are able to tap into this infinite Source. The question is…do we allow ourselves to tap in and receive? Or, do we block the flow of our own prosperity?

There are many ways we block the flow of receiving prosperity. As women, especially, we were taught to put others needs before our own and that giving love is more important than receiving it. This pattern diminishes our vital life force energy and can lead to illness. In Louise Hay’s book, You Can Heal Your Life, she equates breast problems with “A refusal to nourish the self. Putting everyone else first…” Problems occur when we give without allowing ourselves to receive. We need to be willing to receive in order to give from a […]

By |May 26th, 2010|Personal growth|

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Expanding Beyond Fear

Scared, I told myself, “You can do this! Just lean forward and keep going. Don’t stop or look down.” In less than stellar snow conditions, I skied down a steep, double-black diamond run. Once I made it to the bottom of the run, I felt elated. Pushing passed my fear, stretching myself, I felt empowered and liberated. Now I knew I could ski any run under any conditions if I put my mind to it.
When we stretch ourselves beyond what we thought we were capable of, we become more confident and empowered, our vital energy comes alive and we are an inspiration to others! But, rarely do we push ourselves to stretch and grow. We become comfortable in our routines, settling for the status quo, doing things the way they’ve always been done. Fear keeps us stuck in our comfort zones.
In what areas of your life are you stuck in your comfort zone? In what ways might you be holding back because of fear? For example, do you feel bored and unfulfilled with your work, but are afraid to try something new? Are you playing it safe in your relationships because you fear being abandoned or rejected? […]

By |April 23rd, 2010|Personal growth|

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Living from the Heart

By Karen Mehringer

Living from the heart, throwing logic and practicality to the wind, and following the voice of love and inspiration takes strength and courage. But, as we break free from the chains of reason to follow our soul’s callings, a universe of possibilities opens up to us. Unforeseen assistance guides us and supports us on our journey. As a result, our hearts open and expand in love and trust. Strength and courage build and soon we find ourselves living the life of our dreams!

In the movie, Field of Dreams, Kevin Costner hears a voice that tells him to build a baseball field, which would eliminate part of his farm crop and income potential. Listening to the voice instead of logic and reason, Costner builds the field and miracles unfold. At one point in the movie, he is about to lose the farm. Instead of living from fear, he continues to listen to and act upon the voice’s promptings and events continue to transpire beyond his wildest dreams.

Today, John and I are in a huge transition with regards to where we will be living and the type of work he will be doing. More than ever, we are living in […]

By |November 13th, 2009|Personal growth|

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Being the Light

By Karen Mehringer

What is my purpose? Why am I here? We have all asked ourselves these questions at one time or another. When searching for answers, we often focus on what our unique purpose is – our humanly purpose…why we are here at this time, in these particular bodies, with our special combination of talents, passions, dreams and gifts.

A Course in Miracles suggests that our only purpose and function is to be the light of the world. In lesson 61 of the workbook for students, it states, “I am the light of the world. This is my only function. This is why I am here.” After reading this statement and meditating on it, I found myself feeling lighter and freer. All of my worldly illusions of purpose – to do lists, etc., vanished as I owned the truth of my being and existence – to simply be the light. As I accepted this truth, I could feel my body relax and my heart open and expand.

But, at first, my ego mind had a difficult time accepting the simplicity of this idea. It resisted with thoughts like, “It can’t be that easy. There is too much to do to make this world a […]

Connect: Be Fully Present NOW!

By Karen Mehringer

Eager to fill our hungry bellies after a full day of hiking and soaking in the mineral hot springs, John and I sat waiting for our food to arrive. Observing my surroundings, I noticed a woman sitting with her husband text-messaging with her iPhone. The couple appeared to be on vacation. Next, I noticed a man sitting with his wife and two grown daughters. He was also text-messaging while waiting for dinner. At one point, I witnessed him holding his iPhone and text messaging with one hand, while holding his burrito and eating with the other!

Astonished, I thought, “What could possibly be so urgent and important as to divert their attention away from their loved ones?” Being an outside observer, it was easy for me to judge their behavior. But, since I believe we are all mirrors for each other, I had to ask myself, “In what ways do I allow myself to be distracted from being present with the people I love?” And, “What am I missing out on when I’m not fully present with them?”

Modern communication technology, such as the iPhone and Internet, designed to help us connect, when used unconsciously, distracts us from being […]

Healing Through Intention

By Karen Mehringer
Driving to the emergency room it dawned on me…”Today is the seven-year anniversary of my father’s death.” I thought, “How odd that my sister and I had lunch today and didn’t even acknowledge his anniversary.” Soon after, I glimpsed a sign saying, Lucille Packard Children’s Hospital. I was struck by the coincidence as this is where my brother, Kyle, passed away. Sitting in the emergency room, I was further astonished that I had sat in the same exact room at Stanford Hospital ten years earlier, as Kyle was days away from dying in the adjacent building. Not only that, but a similar complaint brought me there…abdominal pain.

Puzzled, I wondered, “What is this all about?” Two days earlier, my family and I gathered to celebrate Kyle’s ten-year anniversary at an oak tree we planted in his memory. During the ceremony, per the suggestion of a friend, I set my intention to release all of the painful memories stored in my body related to watching Kyle suffer and die. I questioned, “Could my body be reliving the trauma of what I witnessed?” “Maybe the trauma is surfacing now to be released?” And, “What about the reoccurring pain in my abdomen?”

Both […]